In this week's episode we discuss 7 things we think can ruin a relationship. Whether it's incompatible sex drives, a lack of trust, or messy behavior on Instagram, of which I am guilty of because I like to stir the pot, there are plenty of ways that a relationship can be ruined, and we dive into them all.
This week we wanted to talk about rushing into relationships. What is it that makes people want to rush into a relationship? What drives people to decide after the first or second date that they need to dive headlong into a relationship? What sort of person wants to rush into a relationship? More importantly, why you should wait even if you are sure about someone after the first date.
Plus, insight into what it's REALLY like to date Demetrius, why being perpetually in a relationship might be hurting how you view dating, and more.
In this episode, we open up the Tao of Indifference hotline to answer a listener question about a very specific situation. How soon is too soon to have sex on a first date is an easy answer, sure, but what if it's a crush from years past who you're going on a road trip with? Trust me, we've got an answer.
Plus: Why you should always limit your liability on your own podcast, why "too soon" is a relative question with no real answer (with one big exception if you want a relationship), how awesome crossover episodes are, we confuse TaleSpin with Chip N Dale Rescue Rangers, post inauguration anxiety, and how hard it is to do the Hora.
And if you'd ever like to call or text us with a dating question, you can reach us at (347) 796-1864
Dating flakey people really are the worst. Unreliable, infuriating, and inconsiderate. The problem is, we can’t completely avoid people flaking on us at least once. So how do you deal with dating flakey people? I know you’ve been wondering, so we’ve got some answers for you.
We get into why people flake before dates, what it’s like to be in relationship with a flakey person, and what you can do to work through flakey behavior is a partner. PLUS: Live tweeting your own funeral, why flaking really sucks if you take the subway, and we get very specific about bygone New York cultural institutions and the best way to eat a Jamaican beef patty.
We’re back, did you miss us? For the first episode of 2017 we wanted to answer a question: If you’re dating someone, and you met someone else, when you end things, should you tell them you’ve met someone else?
Seems like a simple enough question, so we wanted to dig a little deeper. How serious do you need to be? How honest do you need to be? Should you just never tell someone why you want to end things. We get into all that, plus a great boiler plate breakup message that would probably work well in greeting cards, and how cool it would be to have break-ups handled by an officiant.
The holidays can be a tough time for a lot of people, especially single people, even if they don’t particularly celebrate any holidays. It’s a time of the year that is perfectly suited for couples, but singles, not so much. For many single folks out there, the holidays can represent a period of intense stress, and intense isolation.
Whether it’s questions from family and friends that all really boil down to “why are you still single” or just feeling a general sense of loneliness, it can be a tough time for a lot of people out there. I’ve been single for quite a few holiday seasons and let me tell you, it can be hard, even for me.
But don’t worry though, I’m here to help. Let’s talk about how to survive being single over the holidays.
So, you've been dating each other for a while now, your relationship is progressing, and now you're thinking that maybe it's time to think about moving in together. The question is, should you? Should you move in together? Should you make that next big step together? Don't have the answer? Well don't worry, we're here to help.
We get into what it takes to make moving in with someone work, whether or not a couple can have a life together while living apart, some reasons you shouldn't move in together and more. Plus, we shout out a fan who sent over some love, and we make an addendum to an earlier episode based on some constructive listener feedback.
One of my favorite things about writing and podcasting about dating and relationships is that it puts you in touch with people who wouldn't call themselves dating writers,but they can still be incredibly insightful about dating and relationships. Which brings me to my guest for this episode, Allison Arnone.
Allison is a blogger who you may have read on HuffPo, xoJane, Thought Catalog, BlogHer, or YourTango. She blogs about just about everything: Fashion, Politics, Family, her Rants of the Day where she talks about every day pet peeves we all have, and of course, Dating. I'm a huge fan of her work, which you can find at AllisonArnone.com, and you can also find her on Twitter @allisona15. I wanted to have Allison on the podcast because she's very much the sort of person you want to talk about dating, and how that ties into just about everything.
And trust me when I say "Everything". Whether it's engaging with Trolls, dating after the 2016 U.S. Presidential election, the importance of building a life you love, choosing watching HBO's Insecure over first dates, #funeral, and how to make a good impression on a first date. Plus more!
One thing I'll freely admit is when I lack knowledge about a subject. Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy are two subjects that I'll freely admit I don't have a ton of practical knowledge about. Luckily, I know someone who can.
I asked Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks to come onto the podcast to do just that. She's Polyamorous, Queer, Married, a Mother, and she practices Ethical Non-Monogamy. She's got a point of view that I don't, one that I thought was worth sharing with you all, so I got her to open up about her experiences. We get into polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, and how that looks to her in practice, how she discovered that she was queer, how communication helps her navigate ethical non-monogamy, her preferred dating websites, why it still hurts to go through a breakup (even if you're married), and the importance of washing your sheets. Plus a hell of a lot more.
Do you know how to have a One Night Stand? I'm not talking about the *ahem* ins and outs of One Night Stands, but all the other stuff around it. Staying safe, spending the night, expectations, avoiding the Walk of Shame. We get into all those topics and more in this episode.
Plus: My favorite hangover cure.