We’re back, did you miss us? For the first episode of 2017 we wanted to answer a question: If you’re dating someone, and you met someone else, when you end things, should you tell them you’ve met someone else?
Seems like a simple enough question, so we wanted to dig a little deeper. How serious do you need to be? How honest do you need to be? Should you just never tell someone why you want to end things. We get into all that, plus a great boiler plate breakup message that would probably work well in greeting cards, and how cool it would be to have break-ups handled by an officiant.
The holidays can be a tough time for a lot of people, especially single people, even if they don’t particularly celebrate any holidays. It’s a time of the year that is perfectly suited for couples, but singles, not so much. For many single folks out there, the holidays can represent a period of intense stress, and intense isolation.
Whether it’s questions from family and friends that all really boil down to “why are you still single” or just feeling a general sense of loneliness, it can be a tough time for a lot of people out there. I’ve been single for quite a few holiday seasons and let me tell you, it can be hard, even for me.
But don’t worry though, I’m here to help. Let’s talk about how to survive being single over the holidays.
So, you've been dating each other for a while now, your relationship is progressing, and now you're thinking that maybe it's time to think about moving in together. The question is, should you? Should you move in together? Should you make that next big step together? Don't have the answer? Well don't worry, we're here to help.
We get into what it takes to make moving in with someone work, whether or not a couple can have a life together while living apart, some reasons you shouldn't move in together and more. Plus, we shout out a fan who sent over some love, and we make an addendum to an earlier episode based on some constructive listener feedback.
One of my favorite things about writing and podcasting about dating and relationships is that it puts you in touch with people who wouldn't call themselves dating writers,but they can still be incredibly insightful about dating and relationships. Which brings me to my guest for this episode, Allison Arnone.
Allison is a blogger who you may have read on HuffPo, xoJane, Thought Catalog, BlogHer, or YourTango. She blogs about just about everything: Fashion, Politics, Family, her Rants of the Day where she talks about every day pet peeves we all have, and of course, Dating. I'm a huge fan of her work, which you can find at AllisonArnone.com, and you can also find her on Twitter @allisona15. I wanted to have Allison on the podcast because she's very much the sort of person you want to talk about dating, and how that ties into just about everything.
And trust me when I say "Everything". Whether it's engaging with Trolls, dating after the 2016 U.S. Presidential election, the importance of building a life you love, choosing watching HBO's Insecure over first dates, #funeral, and how to make a good impression on a first date. Plus more!
One thing I'll freely admit is when I lack knowledge about a subject. Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy are two subjects that I'll freely admit I don't have a ton of practical knowledge about. Luckily, I know someone who can.
I asked Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks to come onto the podcast to do just that. She's Polyamorous, Queer, Married, a Mother, and she practices Ethical Non-Monogamy. She's got a point of view that I don't, one that I thought was worth sharing with you all, so I got her to open up about her experiences. We get into polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, and how that looks to her in practice, how she discovered that she was queer, how communication helps her navigate ethical non-monogamy, her preferred dating websites, why it still hurts to go through a breakup (even if you're married), and the importance of washing your sheets. Plus a hell of a lot more.
Do you know how to have a One Night Stand? I'm not talking about the *ahem* ins and outs of One Night Stands, but all the other stuff around it. Staying safe, spending the night, expectations, avoiding the Walk of Shame. We get into all those topics and more in this episode.
Plus: My favorite hangover cure.
Many people across America are currently dreading the conversations bound to arise during Thanksgiving dinner. Whether it's being asked if your single, or dealing with close-minded relatives, what should be a time to get together and celebrate what you're thankful for can be a very anxiety inducing time for so many people.
That's why, I wanted to give my listeners a Thanksgiving treat. For this Bonus mini episode of the podcast, I sat down with my Mother before Thanksgiving dinner to get asked all those awkward questions you've been dreading. Plus, my Mother gives my listeners a bit of advice for dealing with folks at the dinner table who might be a bit, problematic.
How soon is too soon to tell them I love you? How long should you wait before you commit? When's the right time to have sex?
We get into all those questions, and more, in this episode. How soon should you listen to it? ASAP
Modern dating involves a lot of behaviors that go unspoken, that very much fall into the gray area of between acceptable behavior and most-certainly-not-okay. Dating multiple people at the same time is one of those things. I'm not talking cheating, or two-timing, I'm talking about all the times you've been on a couple dates with one person, you're still feeling things out, and you line up a first date with someone new. If you're on a dating site right now, odds are good you've had a bit of overlap between dates at least once in your life. I know I have.
So the question is, can you date multiple people in a way that you aren't being a complete and total douchebag while doing it? Not sure about your answer? Well don't worry, we've got some answers for you. In this episode we try to set up some ground roles for dating multiple people in a way that allows for a clear conscience and treating the people you date with basic decency. PLUS: We talk about how great it would be to meet Princess Charming, how weird it would be to knock up two different cousins, and why you should never shit where you eat.
Is flirting cheating? Is "once a cheater always a cheater" true? Have you ever lied about how many people you've slept with? If you had to pick between chemistry or compatibility, which would you choose?
We answered 21 Dating Questions and gave 21 Hot Takes! Want to know if we think soul mates are real? Or, whether or not you should tell a crush you like them even if you don't have a shot?