What is it that makes someone good at dating? It's a question I've thought about a lot, and one that we thought we'd take a stab at answering in this episode. Assuming that everyone isn't good at dating, specifically online dating, so we've got some tips on how to send a good message on dating apps, and how to respond to the messages you get in order to keep the conversation going. PLUS, we talk about why people send half-hearted messages on dating apps where they seem disinterested, but still try to further the conversation. Don't you hate that?
In part 2 of this guest hosted episode of the podcast, we continue our discussion from our previous episode Ep.126 – When should you bring up things like marriage & kids when dating? – Pt. 1 . My guest host from the episode is Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks on Twitter. She’s a married, poly, queer, poly amorous, ethically non-monogamous woman who brings an interesting perspective on dating & relationships. In this half of this two-part episode, we took a larger question about the timing around bringing up marriage when you first start dating and tried to tackle it from a few different angles. In our previous episode (which you should listen to if you haven’t already), we talked about started small, asking how soon you should bring up pets, and work our way up to marriage and kids. In this episode, we cover some heavier topics: When should you bring up your relocation plans? How soon is too soon to bring up your family history, or even your own complicated past? How soon is too soon to bring up your preferences when it comes to sex?
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I called in a guest host for this episode and the episode ended up being so good and so long, we had to split it in TWO. You may recognize my guest host from episode 114, Talk Poly to Me, Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks on Twitter. In this half of this two part episode, we took a larger question about the timing around bringing up marriage when you first start dating and tried to tackle it from every angle. We start small, by asking how soon you should bring up pets, and work our way up to marriage and kids. Wondering how soon you should bring up the fact that you don't want kids, or your bad credit, or even whether or not you should move in together and where?
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This week's episode is a good one, and we hope it was worth the wait. Do you ever feel like you're a stepping stone for your Exes to find someone better than you? Do you ever feel like the "starter" relationship? Do you ever feel like you're helping people find bigger and better things, while you get left behind? If you've ever felt that way, trust us, we understand where you're coming from. Let us talk it out with you, and see if we can change your perspective a bit.
In this week's episode we answer a question about breakup etiquette. What would you do if you wanted to breakup with your partner of 3 years, but the only way to do so in-person would require a 7 hr drive for one of you? Would you have them drive to you so you can break up with them, call them and breakup with them over the phone? Or would you do something completely different?
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In this week's post we answer a listener's question about honesty, when it comes to his past infidelities. If you've cheated in the past, and that's why your marriage ended, how honest do you have to be when you start dating again about your infidelities? How do you avoid losing someone because of your past, and how do you let it go?
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In this week's episode we discuss 7 things we think can ruin a relationship. Whether it's incompatible sex drives, a lack of trust, or messy behavior on Instagram, of which I am guilty of because I like to stir the pot, there are plenty of ways that a relationship can be ruined, and we dive into them all.
This week we wanted to talk about rushing into relationships. What is it that makes people want to rush into a relationship? What drives people to decide after the first or second date that they need to dive headlong into a relationship? What sort of person wants to rush into a relationship? More importantly, why you should wait even if you are sure about someone after the first date.
Plus, insight into what it's REALLY like to date Demetrius, why being perpetually in a relationship might be hurting how you view dating, and more.
In this episode, we open up the Tao of Indifference hotline to answer a listener question about a very specific situation. How soon is too soon to have sex on a first date is an easy answer, sure, but what if it's a crush from years past who you're going on a road trip with? Trust me, we've got an answer.
Plus: Why you should always limit your liability on your own podcast, why "too soon" is a relative question with no real answer (with one big exception if you want a relationship), how awesome crossover episodes are, we confuse TaleSpin with Chip N Dale Rescue Rangers, post inauguration anxiety, and how hard it is to do the Hora.
And if you'd ever like to call or text us with a dating question, you can reach us at (347) 796-1864
Dating flakey people really are the worst. Unreliable, infuriating, and inconsiderate. The problem is, we can’t completely avoid people flaking on us at least once. So how do you deal with dating flakey people? I know you’ve been wondering, so we’ve got some answers for you.
We get into why people flake before dates, what it’s like to be in relationship with a flakey person, and what you can do to work through flakey behavior is a partner. PLUS: Live tweeting your own funeral, why flaking really sucks if you take the subway, and we get very specific about bygone New York cultural institutions and the best way to eat a Jamaican beef patty.