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Sex, Dating and Relationship Advice - Tao of Indifference
Sex, Dating and Relationship Advice for an Indifferent World
Category: Self-Help
Location: Brooklyn
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Demetrius Figueroa is the writer, editor, and creator of The Tao Of Indifference. His first online date happened in 1998 (he li...

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June 17, 2017 01:22 PM PDT

It's never too late to change your love life. Something I hope you know is true, and the theme of this episode. It might feel like you're stuck with your lot in your (love) life, but I promise you, you're not.

May 13, 2017 12:43 PM PDT

This week, I wanted to talk about Red Flags. What red flags to look out for before and during your relationship, and how to spot them. I wanted to focus on red flags that are pretty common, because while there will always be red flags that are specific to your wants and needs, there are many that should be universal red flags.

Here’s what you can expect in this episode:

- 7 Red flags and how to spot them
- Why I won't date non-readers
- A Scottie Pippen trivia factoid

May 06, 2017 05:16 PM PDT

Today I wanted to talk to you about how to find the right person for you. We're all looking for different things in a partner, or our romantic searches, but how we go about finding what we're looking for can be the same. Whether you're looking for someone for right now, or the rest of your life, I believe that these tips will help.

April 29, 2017 12:33 AM PDT

In this week's episode, I wanted to talk about bouncing back from rejection in a way that focuses on what you can do to bounce back, with a focus on changing how you view rejections. Basically, focus on the internal, how you feel, versus the external. Instead of strategies that rely on actions, like looking for rebounds, I want to focus more on changing how you think about rejections.

Here’s what you can expect in this episode:

-How to give yourself perspective after a rejection
-The importance of seeing the silver lining in a rejection
-Why rejections have nothing to do with your self-worth
-How to tell if it's a good time to take a break from dating

April 22, 2017 09:32 AM PDT

If you haven't heard, Bustle, the online women's magazine, has for the second year in a row deemed April "App-Less April". This is an effort to encourage people to drop their dating apps, and take a shot at meeting people the old-fashioned way.

I for one, am all for taking breaks from dating apps, but I think that if you take a break without addressing the underlying problems you face, taking a break is only delaying your inevitable dissatisfaction. In this episode, I wanted to give you some advice on how to use the last days of App-Less April to improve your dating experience if or when you re-download your dating apps. Here's what you can expect in this episode:

-Tips on how to grade the dating apps you were using
-Tips on how to refresh your dating profile
-Advice on changing your approach to dating and
-Advice on how to find areas that you can direct impact to improve your dating experience

April 09, 2017 08:16 AM PDT

Here’s a simple truth: You can’t go on successful first dates without first having succesful conversations. I don’t care what language you use to communicate, if you’re not using that language to have a conversation to learn about someone, to try to find common ground, you wont be going on very many dates. Looks alone can get you pretty far in life, but getting to know people is always going to be the final, critical thing you need to do. Which is why we wanted to focus on conversations in this episode. I know it might sound a little meta to say that we’re having a conversation about conversations, but trust me, I think you’ll find this episode useful if you struggle to talk to people, online or offline.

So, here’s what you can expect in this episode:

Tips on how to start and build on conversations in dating apps
Tips on how to start and build on conversations when you’re flirting offline
Common conversation killers, and what to say instead
Why it’s important to never force a conversation

April 01, 2017 10:46 AM PDT

Two things that many daters are looking for, and can't quite seem to find, is commitment and being exclusive. It Seems like no matter how hard people try, they just can't seem to figure out how to get what they want. Why can't they find someone who wants a commitment ? What makes someone want to be exclusive, and what holds them back? Why are so many people afraid of rushing into relationships? Is it because of something you're doing wrong, or is it something that's probably out of your control?

In this discussion, we wanted to talk about what makes people generally want to commit, what makes them want to be exclusive, and what you should do when your wants and needs around commitment and exclusivity might be different than your partner's.

This episode has advice for all those situations. We share our own experiences with commitment and exclusivity, and finally, tips for how to build a foundation for a happy and healthy commitment!

March 25, 2017 02:38 PM PDT

What is it that makes someone good at dating? It's a question I've thought about a lot, and one that we thought we'd take a stab at answering in this episode. Assuming that everyone isn't good at dating, specifically online dating, so we've got some tips on how to send a good message on dating apps, and how to respond to the messages you get in order to keep the conversation going. PLUS, we talk about why people send half-hearted messages on dating apps where they seem disinterested, but still try to further the conversation. Don't you hate that?

March 18, 2017 08:26 AM PDT

In part 2 of this guest hosted episode of the podcast, we continue our discussion from our previous episode Ep.126 – When should you bring up things like marriage & kids when dating? – Pt. 1 . My guest host from the episode is Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks on Twitter. She’s a married, poly, queer, poly amorous, ethically non-monogamous woman who brings an interesting perspective on dating & relationships. In this half of this two-part episode, we took a larger question about the timing around bringing up marriage when you first start dating and tried to tackle it from a few different angles. In our previous episode (which you should listen to if you haven’t already), we talked about started small, asking how soon you should bring up pets, and work our way up to marriage and kids. In this episode, we cover some heavier topics: When should you bring up your relocation plans? How soon is too soon to bring up your family history, or even your own complicated past? How soon is too soon to bring up your preferences when it comes to sex?

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March 11, 2017 12:47 PM PST

I called in a guest host for this episode and the episode ended up being so good and so long, we had to split it in TWO. You may recognize my guest host from episode 114, Talk Poly to Me, Perhaps Perhaps, aka @PolyGalSeeks on Twitter. In this half of this two part episode, we took a larger question about the timing around bringing up marriage when you first start dating and tried to tackle it from every angle. We start small, by asking how soon you should bring up pets, and work our way up to marriage and kids. Wondering how soon you should bring up the fact that you don't want kids, or your bad credit, or even whether or not you should move in together and where?

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