If you're a fan of the podcast, you know that we're big pop culture heads and obviously love and relationships, and this episode is a great blend of those two themes.
Do you ever go back and re-experience something you experienced when you were younger, whether it's a song, movie, or other form of pop-culture, and realize just how poorly it's aged. You know what seems to age even more poorly? Depictions of love, dating, and relationships in Pop Culture. Of course, there are some examples that stand the test of time, so we wanted to show those pieces of pop culture a bit of love too.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I talk about some depictions of love in pop culture that we love and like a little less. Sorry in advance if we ruin your childhood. As always we spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you’ve been waiting for. Plus, a special shout out to Mary Lane of New York Cliche.
The second episode of the relaunch may ruffle some feathers, but that's okay. We wanted to tackle preferences in dating, specifically racial preferences in dating, with as much nuance and as possible. It's worth a listen, if for no other reason than to have your beliefs challenged a bit.
Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and talk about what your racial preferences in dating say about you, society as a whole, how people use race as shorthand for culture, and so much more. We spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you've been waiting for.
Welcome to the first episode of the relaunched podcast. I think you'll like it. If you didn't hear, I've got a new cohost. She's Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter). She's an awesome cohost who bring a different perspective on life and love. If you aren't already, and catch up on previous episodes we've recorded together (Ep.114, Ep.126, and Ep.127).
In this episode we wanted to discuss the role that self-imposed dating rules can play on your dating life. Are they helping you, are they hurting you, are they worth holding onto? We tackle that, and more, in this episode, plus a whole bunch of segues, and tangents.
It's never too late to change your love life. Something I hope you know is true, and the theme of this episode. It might feel like you're stuck with your lot in your (love) life, but I promise you, you're not.
This week, I wanted to talk about Red Flags. What red flags to look out for before and during your relationship, and how to spot them. I wanted to focus on red flags that are pretty common, because while there will always be red flags that are specific to your wants and needs, there are many that should be universal red flags.
Here’s what you can expect in this episode:
- 7 Red flags and how to spot them
- Why I won't date non-readers
- A Scottie Pippen trivia factoid
Today I wanted to talk to you about how to find the right person for you. We're all looking for different things in a partner, or our romantic searches, but how we go about finding what we're looking for can be the same. Whether you're looking for someone for right now, or the rest of your life, I believe that these tips will help.
In this week's episode, I wanted to talk about bouncing back from rejection in a way that focuses on what you can do to bounce back, with a focus on changing how you view rejections. Basically, focus on the internal, how you feel, versus the external. Instead of strategies that rely on actions, like looking for rebounds, I want to focus more on changing how you think about rejections.
Here’s what you can expect in this episode:
-How to give yourself perspective after a rejection
-The importance of seeing the silver lining in a rejection
-Why rejections have nothing to do with your self-worth
-How to tell if it's a good time to take a break from dating
If you haven't heard, Bustle, the online women's magazine, has for the second year in a row deemed April "App-Less April". This is an effort to encourage people to drop their dating apps, and take a shot at meeting people the old-fashioned way.
I for one, am all for taking breaks from dating apps, but I think that if you take a break without addressing the underlying problems you face, taking a break is only delaying your inevitable dissatisfaction. In this episode, I wanted to give you some advice on how to use the last days of App-Less April to improve your dating experience if or when you re-download your dating apps. Here's what you can expect in this episode:
-Tips on how to grade the dating apps you were using
-Tips on how to refresh your dating profile
-Advice on changing your approach to dating and
-Advice on how to find areas that you can direct impact to improve your dating experience
Here’s a simple truth: You can’t go on successful first dates without first having succesful conversations. I don’t care what language you use to communicate, if you’re not using that language to have a conversation to learn about someone, to try to find common ground, you wont be going on very many dates. Looks alone can get you pretty far in life, but getting to know people is always going to be the final, critical thing you need to do. Which is why we wanted to focus on conversations in this episode. I know it might sound a little meta to say that we’re having a conversation about conversations, but trust me, I think you’ll find this episode useful if you struggle to talk to people, online or offline.
So, here’s what you can expect in this episode:
Tips on how to start and build on conversations in dating apps
Tips on how to start and build on conversations when you’re flirting offline
Common conversation killers, and what to say instead
Why it’s important to never force a conversation
Two things that many daters are looking for, and can't quite seem to find, is commitment and being exclusive. It Seems like no matter how hard people try, they just can't seem to figure out how to get what they want. Why can't they find someone who wants a commitment ? What makes someone want to be exclusive, and what holds them back? Why are so many people afraid of rushing into relationships? Is it because of something you're doing wrong, or is it something that's probably out of your control?
In this discussion, we wanted to talk about what makes people generally want to commit, what makes them want to be exclusive, and what you should do when your wants and needs around commitment and exclusivity might be different than your partner's.
This episode has advice for all those situations. We share our own experiences with commitment and exclusivity, and finally, tips for how to build a foundation for a happy and healthy commitment!